认识玛莉卡是三年前的事, 每次小镇上有活动, 总是能在小孩子们玩的地方遇到,...那种金色亮丽的头发, 一看就知道是北欧来的, 艾斯东尼亚就是北欧的前苏联的一部分, 苏联解体时就从苏联分了出来,...玛莉卡的两个漂亮金发女儿也很惹人注目....那种俄国血统的美...

开始交往还是由于孩子,...女儿和玛莉卡的女儿是一个班,经常地就会听到女儿说起G, 一会儿说G今天说女儿的两颗呀是Vanpire(大概是魔王罢)的牙齿,令我们发笑,..有一天女儿回来说, G有一次在学校的厕所里看到了妖怪,...反正G总有很多的花头金让女儿有很多的好奇...甚至有一次, 女儿说起来, G还在别的同学不客气的时候会挺身而出保护女儿...我这个当妈的就快坐不住了...想要请她来玩...但是知道她妈很忙就没敢多打搅...

突然之间就有另一个和女儿一直在玩的男孩的妈, 开始经常地邀请两个女孩到他家玩...三个人玩得到好得很,...然后我们做母亲的也会有被邀请去他家周末聚会... 还有两个就是男孩的妈,...所以就再一次有机会和玛莉卡接近起来...又加上是从不同的国家移民来的, 共产党国家来的总是有一些共同之处,...

玛莉卡二十岁出国,来美国读了法律, 做了律师,...应该是很不错的, 她总是说我很幸运因为嫁了个美国人, 没有感觉被歧视, 我只觉得不太好理解,...对我来说, 他们两个都是实质的白人为什么还有抱怨?!...她告诉我她在交往美国男朋友的时候就被男朋友问道,是为了绿卡, 最后只好嫁给这个本国来的交往了才知道都长在同一条街道上...
又比她小四岁的男人,...而住进这个镇, 她好像也有很多被歧视的抱怨...有人甚至很不客气地不准她加入镇上的孩子玩的设施,...还有她的大女儿也不太有朋友,...终于有一天女儿说有一个同学是同类的,...她莫名其妙地问女儿,哪一类, 女儿说是犹太人一类...他先生的家族中有犹太族的, 而她全家是路德教的...

说了许多感激的话说我们一圈的人很nice, 就又问我为什么大家要自成圈子...我觉得无法回答,...她有点太过激动好象找到党组织一样, 而我却很自然地与人交往,...只能向她解释说, 玩多了就成一圈了, 其实只因为一个朋友, 她总是召集大家周末聚在一起,...以后就又加上爸爸们...大家都很享受聚会,...不过也很松散,...无所谓义务, 也不捐款... 她的先生是个建筑师,..很有俄国人的味道, 也与他喝过两次伏特加...先生喜欢去纽约的晚间俱乐部, 玛莉卡不是很高兴但也没办法,..我会劝她说, 年轻嘛, 还没玩够罢...

突然之间就听她说, 还要去再次检查乳腺的手续,..自己没有这方面的经验, 家人没有病例, 朋友也没有这病的,..以为就是想万无一失罢...有一天有自带一瓶酒来情绪很沮丧似的,...说是有囊肿需要做切除手术...案子就转到纽约了...还说不需要做化疗, 只需做镭射...

本来准备回国度暑假的, 也取消了,...女儿到高兴, 可以和她女儿玩了...

上个星期做完手术, 又说要做化疗了,...大家都很受惊吓,...有朋友已经做了周五晚餐送过去了,..这是美国的文化, 轮着做晚餐...相信玛莉卡肯定没心思做东西,...家里还有丈夫和一双女儿呐...

 Hanging over there?....sweetie?...
> >
> > Anything I can help?...Anytime you want see
> friends?...
> >
> > We see your daughter everyday at swimming pool...
> >
> > Miss you!!

From 玛莉卡

Miss you too , had an operation
> last tuesday, good news, cancer 
> had not spread, seeing different doctors, hard weeks ahead,
> will see 
> you soon.

Thank you for checkin on me. Was going to call you but it seems like every time I think of you, it's either during a swim- or dinnertime-:))
I have been pretty bummed. Had the lumpectomy and my surgeon said "everything is good and clean" but sent me to an oncologist. Oncologist gave me the worst news ever, I NEED CHEMOTHERAPY, lose my hair, eyelashes and eyebrows. This was very hard to swollow... Chemo will start on 7/29 and last till 11/11/10. Then, after about 4 weeks, hair starts growing back... After Chemo, I need 6 weeks, 5 times a week, radiation. Sometimes I wish I never found out that I have breast cancer...
Thank you for offering to cook for me... Sooooo nice of you and also Marnie and Anita (she made dinner for us on Friday!). I am working this week but...to tell you the truth...I would love someone to cook for me, or try your delicious dumplings, when I'm on chemo, sometimes in August, September or October...
Will see you at one of these Swim Meets