Letting Go “放手”

作者：不詳
譯者: Hesed

Letting go does not mean to stop caring;
it means I can't do it for someone else.
“放手”並不代錶停止關懷；
而是意味着我不能越俎代庖。

Letting go is not to cut myself off;
it's the realisation I can't control another.
“放手”並不是割席斷交；
而是認識到我不能控制他人。

Letting go is not to enable;
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
“放手”並不是授權犯錯；
而是允許別人從自然因果中學習。

Letting go is to admit powerless;
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
“放手”是自承無力；
也就是說結果不在我手。

Letting go is not to try to change or blame another;
it's to make the most of myself.
“放手”並不是嘗試改變或責備他人；
而是充分發揮自己的價值。

Letting go is not to care for; but to care about.
“放手”並不是監護；而是關護。

Letting go is not to fix; but to be supportive.
“放手”並不是修理；而是支持。

Letting go is not to judge;
but to allow another to be a human being.
“放手”並不是論斷；
而是提供他人做人的空間。

Letting go is not to be in the middle arranging the outcome;
but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
“放手”並不是從中運籌帷幄；
而是允許別人決定自己的命運。

Letting go is not to be protective;
it's to permit another to face reality.
“放手”並不是勤於保護；
而是允許他人面對現實。

Letting go is not to deny; but to accept.
“放手”並不是否認；而是接受。

Letting go is not to nag, scold or argue;
but instead to search out your own shortcomings and correct them.
“放手”並不是嘮叨、謾罵或爭辯；
而是找出自己的弱點並改正它們。

Letting go is not to adjust everything to my own desires;
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
“放手”並不是根據一己之欲調整所有的事情；
而是隨遇而安，並在其中珍惜自己。

Letting go is not to criticize and regulate anybody;
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
“放手”並不是吹毛求疵和管制任何人；
而是嘗試成為我夢寐以求的人。

Letting go is not to regret the past;
but to grow and live for the future.
“放手”並不是悔恨過去；
而是為將來成長和生活。

Letting go is to fear less and live more.
“放手”是更少的畏懼、更多的抱擁生命。

When I feel responsible FOR others
當我越俎代庖時：

I ... 我勤於：
fix 修理
protect 保護
rescue 救援
control 控制
carry their feelings 承載他們的感情包袱
don't listen 沒有聆聽

I feel ... 我感覺：
tired 疲憊
anxious 憂慮
fearful 畏懼
liable 有義務

I am concerned with ... 我更關心
the solution 解決方案
answers 答案
circumstances 情況發展
being right 一貫正確
details 細節
per????ance 表現

I am a manipulator 我是操縱者

I expect the person to live up to my expectations. 我期盼當事人達到我的預期。

When I feel responsible TO others
當我對別人負責時：

I ... 我勤於
show empathy 表示感同身受
encourage 鼓勵
share 分享
confront 面對澄清
level 冷靜
am sensitive 敏感
listen 聆聽

I feel ... 我感覺：
relaxed 輕鬆寫意
free 自由
aware 警覺
high self-worth 高自我價值

I am concerned with ... 我更關心：
relating person to person 人與人之間的相處
feelings 情感
the person 當事人

I believe if I just share myself, the other person has enough to make it.
我相信只要分享自己的生命，別人有足夠自理的能力。

I am a helper/guide. 我是個幫助者/引導者

I expect the person to be responsible for himself and his own actions. 我期望當事人能為自己和自己的行為負責。

I can trust, let go. 我可以信賴交託，於是我“放手”。