From what you described, you are an immature and selfish person when dealing with marriage (sorry, a little bit harsh). There are two issues you need to think about. First, in this world, people cherish the value of "good lies" which intent to protect loved ones from being hurt. Ask yourself whether his "lie" has any good intentions. Secondly, studies have proven that preserving a small private space between a married couple is important to continued healthy growth of a marriage. If you do love him (which I have serious doubts), would you care to preserve his little space in which he can deposit his previous feelings, or you would ruthlessly deprive it from him?. If you have a clear mind on these twoo issues, my advice is, go home and sit down with your husband with an wide open heart. Open a bottle of wine, and enjoy a movie called "Eyes Wide Shut" (Tom Cruise & Nicole Kidman). Remember, what matters most is whether or not he loves you and you love him. Do not follow the advice for a divorce because you will be sorry for the rest of your life.