小拖對籃球運動很摯愛，認定了UK是他的大學他的隊，NBA是他的目標。我曾引導他：哈佛耶魯也有籃球隊(應該有的……吧?)，都很強的隊哦。可他就認定了UK, win or lose。再一天又喜滋滋跟我說：媽咪，LBJ不上大學就直接進了NBA……看我一瞪眼，他立刻追加一句：Ok,Ok,I am just saying.

 

我一直堅持體育只能當個愛好，當飯碗端是不行的。家家門口都立一個籃球架，真正打出來的又有幾個？亞洲人的體格又是另一個問題。小拖最不愛聽的就是這話，果然立刻被他反駁回來：NBA里有過一個誰誰誰，個子只有你這麼高。一問專家，還真有過一位1.6米高的NBAer，曾經把老喬防得24秒球脫不了手。

 

不管我怎麼拖後腿，他只管練他的球，風雨無阻。身高不夠扣不了籃，他就把蹦蹦床拖過來墊腳底下。圍着籃筐畫個圓，站在線上以不同的角度投籃，甚至跑到籃板後面去投，他說LBJ能，能在去更衣室的路上大手往後一翻，球就進了。兒啊，天太冷了，戴上手套吧？不，戴了手的感覺就不對了。

 

又一個兒大不由娘，支持吧就，扶上馬送一程，能走多遠是多遠。

 

ＬＧ去打聽來一家業餘體校的籃球隊，面試通過。每周三次課，訓練很正規，有招有式有板有眼，每周幾個隊之間還有一場比賽。交了學費，訂了兩套隊服，又去買了一雙籃球鞋。以前說了要買這種鞋，兒子說太貴，不用。現在是正規軍了，行頭得配齊了。

 

可是每次訓練回來兒子都不開心，說他沒有很多上場時間，大部分都是坐板凳。第一場比賽我們全家去助陣，ＬＧ拿上他的炮筒子要攝下兒子的英姿。可是４０分鐘的比賽兒子只上去了３分鐘，還是最後垃圾時間的３分鐘。他還不是最糟的，很多孩子就那麼乖乖地在板凳上坐了一晚上，互相之間也不交談。場上４個孩子打了滿場，只有一個機動人員，每次換人時，那些板凳隊員都眼巴巴希望教練能指到自己。

 

一晚上我的注意力都在兒子身上，他坐在那裡，一臉落寞，只偶爾為自己的隊鼓鼓掌，也看不出欣喜，似乎他不是他們中的一員，場上的熱鬧和他無關。那情景看着着實心疼。

 

換下來休息的主力都緊挨着教練坐，再上場時教練就拍一下他的背。大概有個孩子看出了這點，也湊過去坐在剛剛空出的位置上，教練果然也拍了他一下，就見那個孩子屁股還沒坐穩，就起身坐回了他原來的位置。教練說的什麼我能猜出個８、９。

 

回家的路上全家人都默不作聲，小襖終於忍不住了為弟弟報不平，我趕緊把話叉開，顧左右而言它，新鞋子穿着舒服嗎？媽媽特意買的ＵＫ的顏色哦，聖誕節想要的禮物想好了嗎。。。。

 

我對ＬＧ說，不行不行，這樣下去絕對不行！我一個那麼陽光那麼自信那麼生龍活虎的兒子，就被教練硬生生摁在板凳上，球可以少打，心理上。。。。。不行，得找他們的Director談談。

 

ＬＧ說，沉住氣，再看看。

 

又看了一周，沒改變。和其他幾個家長一交流，他們也都憤憤不平，２４００刀的學費不是個小數，我們是來學習的，不是來看計分牌的。有個家長伸出一隻指頭，“我兒子就上去了１分鐘，上去發了個球，跑到這半場，就換下來了。”可是他們為什麼不去反映情況呢？難道只我們太葛護犢子心太切？

 

發Ｅ給Director：

 

Hi, Coach XXX,
 
After tonight's game, I feel I have to voice my unhappiness to you about the coaching practices in the 5/6 grade team. It has been three weeks since my son Tony joined the BA. So far, there have been 4 games played.  The appearance for him was always very brief in each game. On average, his time in the court was about 4 mniutes in the whole 40 minutes play time. Tonight, he appeared in the late second half for about 3 minutes, and send back to the bench, watching other players play.
 
I would not feel too bad to see this short play time for him if all players were treated the same. There were consitently 4 kids played from the very beginning to the majoriy of the whole 40 minutes period. It was this way tonight, and it has been like this since the very first game.
 
I don't know why these kids got so lucky to have this abount time in the court. One explaination was that they some how related to the coaches, or have been coached by the coach before, but no matter what, this is just plain wrong. Kids need chance to practice, to experience, and learn the competitive skills through the game, especially those not as skilled as those long playing kids.
 
Tony truely loves basketball. He was so happy that he could still join the Hoyas after we accidently missed the registration deadline, he practiced very hard every Tuesday and Thursday night, motiviated to be a better player in the team. He always looking forward to playing games. But he was upset after each game, and even more upset tonight, because he got only about 3 minutes to play.
 
I briefly talked to other three parents tonight, they all expressed the same unhappiness about what we have seen so far. Some of them may will contact you as well. Hope you can look into it and get it corrected.
 
Thanks for you consideration. Please let me know if you need additional information.

 

立竿見影，第二天兒子高高興興回來，打了全場。訓練結束後教練還給兒子做了特殊輔導，說他投球弧度很好，要加強手臂鍛煉，可以多練練躺着拋球。

 

關於比賽安排，教練堅持說，必須要有那幾個位置上的那幾個隊員才能打起來。。。Well，這裡是學校，是學習的地方，你不能因為他學習不好就取消他參加考試的資格，何況輸贏我們根本不在乎。問題是，１７個人的隊伍是不是太大？是不是該借鑑另一個隊的做法，每３分鐘換一次人？再也許，我們根本就來錯了地方？