小拖对篮球运动很挚爱，认定了UK是他的大学他的队，NBA是他的目标。我曾引导他：哈佛耶鲁也有篮球队(应该有的……吧?)，都很强的队哦。可他就认定了UK, win or lose。再一天又喜滋滋跟我说：妈咪，LBJ不上大学就直接进了NBA……看我一瞪眼，他立刻追加一句：Ok,Ok,I am just saying.

 

我一直坚持体育只能当个爱好，当饭碗端是不行的。家家门口都立一个篮球架，真正打出来的又有几个？亚洲人的体格又是另一个问题。小拖最不爱听的就是这话，果然立刻被他反驳回来：NBA里有过一个谁谁谁，个子只有你这么高。一问专家，还真有过一位1.6米高的NBAer，曾经把老乔防得24秒球脱不了手。

 

不管我怎么拖后腿，他只管练他的球，风雨无阻。身高不够扣不了篮，他就把蹦蹦床拖过来垫脚底下。围着篮筐画个圆，站在线上以不同的角度投篮，甚至跑到篮板后面去投，他说LBJ能，能在去更衣室的路上大手往后一翻，球就进了。儿啊，天太冷了，戴上手套吧？不，戴了手的感觉就不对了。

 

又一个儿大不由娘，支持吧就，扶上马送一程，能走多远是多远。

 

ＬＧ去打听来一家业余体校的篮球队，面试通过。每周三次课，训练很正规，有招有式有板有眼，每周几个队之间还有一场比赛。交了学费，订了两套队服，又去买了一双篮球鞋。以前说了要买这种鞋，儿子说太贵，不用。现在是正规军了，行头得配齐了。

 

可是每次训练回来儿子都不开心，说他没有很多上场时间，大部分都是坐板凳。第一场比赛我们全家去助阵，ＬＧ拿上他的炮筒子要摄下儿子的英姿。可是４０分钟的比赛儿子只上去了３分钟，还是最后垃圾时间的３分钟。他还不是最糟的，很多孩子就那么乖乖地在板凳上坐了一晚上，互相之间也不交谈。场上４个孩子打了满场，只有一个机动人员，每次换人时，那些板凳队员都眼巴巴希望教练能指到自己。

 

一晚上我的注意力都在儿子身上，他坐在那里，一脸落寞，只偶尔为自己的队鼓鼓掌，也看不出欣喜，似乎他不是他们中的一员，场上的热闹和他无关。那情景看着着实心疼。

 

换下来休息的主力都紧挨着教练坐，再上场时教练就拍一下他的背。大概有个孩子看出了这点，也凑过去坐在刚刚空出的位置上，教练果然也拍了他一下，就见那个孩子屁股还没坐稳，就起身坐回了他原来的位置。教练说的什么我能猜出个８、９。

 

回家的路上全家人都默不作声，小袄终于忍不住了为弟弟报不平，我赶紧把话叉开，顾左右而言它，新鞋子穿着舒服吗？妈妈特意买的ＵＫ的颜色哦，圣诞节想要的礼物想好了吗。。。。

 

我对ＬＧ说，不行不行，这样下去绝对不行！我一个那么阳光那么自信那么生龙活虎的儿子，就被教练硬生生摁在板凳上，球可以少打，心理上。。。。。不行，得找他们的Director谈谈。

 

ＬＧ说，沉住气，再看看。

 

又看了一周，没改变。和其他几个家长一交流，他们也都愤愤不平，２４００刀的学费不是个小数，我们是来学习的，不是来看计分牌的。有个家长伸出一只指头，“我儿子就上去了１分钟，上去发了个球，跑到这半场，就换下来了。”可是他们为什么不去反映情况呢？难道只我们太葛护犊子心太切？

 

发Ｅ给Director：

 

Hi, Coach XXX,
 
After tonight's game, I feel I have to voice my unhappiness to you about the coaching practices in the 5/6 grade team. It has been three weeks since my son Tony joined the BA. So far, there have been 4 games played.  The appearance for him was always very brief in each game. On average, his time in the court was about 4 mniutes in the whole 40 minutes play time. Tonight, he appeared in the late second half for about 3 minutes, and send back to the bench, watching other players play.
 
I would not feel too bad to see this short play time for him if all players were treated the same. There were consitently 4 kids played from the very beginning to the majoriy of the whole 40 minutes period. It was this way tonight, and it has been like this since the very first game.
 
I don't know why these kids got so lucky to have this abount time in the court. One explaination was that they some how related to the coaches, or have been coached by the coach before, but no matter what, this is just plain wrong. Kids need chance to practice, to experience, and learn the competitive skills through the game, especially those not as skilled as those long playing kids.
 
Tony truely loves basketball. He was so happy that he could still join the Hoyas after we accidently missed the registration deadline, he practiced very hard every Tuesday and Thursday night, motiviated to be a better player in the team. He always looking forward to playing games. But he was upset after each game, and even more upset tonight, because he got only about 3 minutes to play.
 
I briefly talked to other three parents tonight, they all expressed the same unhappiness about what we have seen so far. Some of them may will contact you as well. Hope you can look into it and get it corrected.
 
Thanks for you consideration. Please let me know if you need additional information.

 

立竿见影，第二天儿子高高兴兴回来，打了全场。训练结束后教练还给儿子做了特殊辅导，说他投球弧度很好，要加强手臂锻炼，可以多练练躺着抛球。

 

关于比赛安排，教练坚持说，必须要有那几个位置上的那几个队员才能打起来。。。Well，这里是学校，是学习的地方，你不能因为他学习不好就取消他参加考试的资格，何况输赢我们根本不在乎。问题是，１７个人的队伍是不是太大？是不是该借鉴另一个队的做法，每３分钟换一次人？再也许，我们根本就来错了地方？