The Anger of Today is the Remorse of Tomorrow
Paul Lai
English Translation: Linda Yang

My dear brothers, take note of this:
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
-James 1:19
"Anger" and "Danger" are only one letter apart.
A survey performed in the Greater Taipei area by the Dong Foundation of Taiwan found that most people become angry most easily with their family and most often with their co-workers. They become angry the most frequently at home, followed by the school or workplace. In short, most people are angry most easily with people they are close with-family and friends. Among those surveyed, 62 per cent were angry at least once a week; 15 per cent were angry every day.
There is a story travelling around on the email circuit that tells about a university student who likes cars. He and his father often flip excitedly through car magazines, discussing various makes and models. He really thought that his father would give him a car as a graduation present. However, on the day of his graduation, his father gave him a wrapped present-it was a Bible. He was disappointed and angry. Didn't his father promise to give him a car? How come it's a Bible? Furious, he ran away from home and never spoke to them again. Years later, the young man built a successful career. One day, he received a telegram, informing him of his father's death from a heart attack. When he returned home to sort out his father's belongings, his mother calmly handed him a Bible. She motioned for him to open it. Inside, to his horror, he found a car key with a note that read, "It's been paid for!"
You can imagine the young man's reaction when he saw his father's handwritten note. He must have felt extremely guilty and regretful, but no amount of regret or guilt can erase the pain that he had caused. His father's wish was for him to seek first the kingdom of God, and then the car would be his.

Every prudent man acts out of knowledge, but a fool exposes his folly.
-Proverbs 13:16

A saying goes like this: Anger is momentary insanity; therefore you must control your emotions, or else your emotions will control you. When anger rises up, one becomes unreasonable, like a wild horse broken free of its reins or a boat tossed on an angry sea with no one at its helm. Human relationships between husband and wife, siblings, parents and children, and relatives often sever completely because of the pain inflicted by unchecked anger and lack of emotional control. Many things that should not have been said are blurted out when a person is consumed by his/her anger. Frankly, anger is foolish, only resulting in regret. A study has shown that 90% of angry confrontations are caused by a hostile tone of voice. A gentle and respectful reply can diffuse anger. Then, we can learn how to accommodate others.

今天的怒气是明日的懊悔
赖建鹏 着
英译: 杨光(真理报加西版2007年4月号)
「我亲爱的弟兄们、这是你们所知道的．但你们各人要快快的听、僈僈的说、慢慢的动怒．」雅各书1:19

愤怒与危险只有一字之隔。（愤怒是anger ，危险是danger，只差一个d ）最容易生气的对像是家人。

台湾董氏基金会曾对大台北地区做过一项调查，发现受访民众最容易生气的对像是家人，每天都会生气的对象则是同事，而最容易发脾气的地方是家里，其次是学校或工作职场。总之，最容易生气的对象不是亲人就是熟人；其中有六成二的人，每星期至少会生气一次，甚至有一成五的民众是天天生气的。

在电子邮件上有一则故事， [述及一位大学毕业生很喜欢一辆跑车，父子两人还兴致勃勃地翻不少汔声车杂志，论不同的品牌，他深信父亲会送一辆跑车给他，作为毕业礼物。那知毕典礼那天，父亲却送洽给他一包礼物，打开来竟是一本圣经。他又失望又发怒，父亲不是答应要送他汽车吗？怎么样变成一本圣经了？愤怒之下，夺门而出，也听不见身后父母的呼叫声，他离家出走，此后再也没有与家里连络。多年后，他事业有成，一天突然收到电报，说他父亲因心脏病发作而过世。 他返家整理父亲的遗物，母亲静静的交给他一本圣经，母亲示意要他打开，他惊愕的发现在封底有一个汽车的钥匙，一张单子上写着：「车款已付清！」。 ]

你可想象，这个青年人看了父亲亲笔的几个字后的反应是什么？他一定是强烈的痛悔和自责，只是再多的痛悔和自责也弥补不了所造成的伤害。父亲的美意，是要他先寻求神的国和祂的义，这辆车就是他的了。

「愚妄人恼怒时显露，通达人能忍辱藏羞，不轻易发怒的大有聪明」(箴言13：16)

有一句这样说：「恼怒是片刻的疯狂，所以你要控制情绪，否则情绪控制了你」恼怒一发，往往失去理智，有如脱缰的野马，怒海中无人掌舵的船只。人际关系，夫妻，兄弟姊妹，父母子女，亲友，往往因失去控制情绪而发怒，带来了创伤甚至断绝了关系，因为人发怒，头脑便怒气冲昏，于是许多不该讲的话就冲口而出。实在的，忿怒起于愚昧，终于悔恨。 有一个研究指出百分之九十的冲突源自语气欠佳，所以要用温柔、敬畏的心回答，方能平息怒气。更进一步便去学习迁就人。