indeed, education in china had a lot of problems in last several decades, especially the ranking system. Confidence of the young students can easily got hurt if they can not do well in school, since a lot of people around will tell you that you are not good enough explicitly or implicitly, very bad for psychology health. Yes, it is bad! However, this is not resulted from "Xiao", which means respect to parents. Yun Yi was trying to related those two things together, that is why I did not agree with him.

I like this part of your article very much: 有了充分的自爱，人不会太在乎别人如何评价，心灵才有此得到自由，人生才开始真正潇洒起来。

Thanks.