上周末， 全家人參加了一朋友的結婚儀式。新娘是剛來美國住在我家相識的朋友。她聰明能幹， 七八年的拼打， 如今有象樣的工作，還準備再讀個法學學位， 九十多萬的毫宅， 朗君文質彬彬, 白人美國人，理工博士, 一眼看去， 就是位紳士。

婚禮是在都市的一條大河的輪船上舉行。朋友們， 白的， 黑的， 黃的 還有棕色的為新郎新娘舉杯祝願。場面甚是感人，我們的兩個小女兒非常高興， 太太和我更是激動不已。

站在船頭， 太太不勝感慨地對無憂說，＂我們命苦， 連婚禮都沒有。＂無憂笑答道，＂不是命不好， 是生活方式的不同。能在那時大陸上大學的人， 命會不好嗎？ 那時能出國留學的人， 命能不好嗎？ 現在能住百萬房， 開叉五車， 命不好, 別人相信嗎？有如花的女兒， 天使般的孩子，還有這紳士的先生無憂, 你命不好,誰又會比你命好？雖有千千萬萬的人跟我們的命一樣好。＂

無憂開導太太講， ＂不同的時代， 不同的階段， 有不同的生活方式嘛。我們這幾代留學生， 每個人的經歷不同，但大致相似， 結果相同。沒有婚禮， 是我們時代的象徵， 我們誰沒到餐館端過盤子？ 進過實驗室刷過管子？誰沒過過苦日子？ 大家現在不是都很好嗎， 最起碼， 我們認識的人不是都很不錯嗎？“
無憂接着啟發太太說，”革命同志， 革命朋友， 以及革命夫妻任何時候， 尤其是在困難的時候，要看到光明， 要看到前途， 要提高我們的勇氣，要望前看，明天會更好＂

要望前看，明天會更好， 這是偉大的無憂一貫的想法和態度。

人不能老提過去， 好的壞的， 尤其不能自憐自惜， 正象無憂常說的， 別人可以同情你， 可憐你， 或者看不起你，但你自己絕對不能對自己這樣。任何時候， 任何地方都不能這樣。

這也就是為什麼無憂很少提起悲慘的童年，痛苦的過去， 無憂有時需要他人的同情， 但不需要他人的眼淚。眼淚對無憂沒有任何意義。今天沒飯吃， 無憂需要的是碗飯， 明天沒衣穿， 無憂需要的件衣服。過去就讓它過去， 無憂想着的是今天和明天， 永遠是今天和明天。

永遠想着今天和明天。我想這是我們所應該的，更是我們應該教育我們的孩子們的。
當然， 話又說回來， 無憂的婚禮也確實是寒酸的無法提及， 就象無憂的悲慘童年一樣不提也罷。

I was lucky to meet my beautiful wife while we were graduates in an American college. It was a college town with a population of about 40, 000 including 23,000 students. Once she graduated, we thought we should be married. We went to the local court with our school bags on our backs. We told the court clerks that we wanted to marry. The clerks asked whether we had registered or not. We wondered why we needed to register since we loved each other and lived together for over three years. We just wanted to marry because we wanted to move to another city to look for jobs. The clerks said that we had to registered first and then get married. So we registered February 08, 1993.

Two days later, we went to the court again with poor and humble shirts and pants. I told the clerks that we were ready to marry. The clerks asked us who our witnesses were. I asked them why we needed witnesses since we both loved each other. The clerks said that we had to have witnesses to get married. And I said to them how about they two (the clerks) to be our witnesses. The clerks said that they would love to. The honorable Judge Stone asked me and my wife a couple of questions as he usually did, and both my wife and I repeated “I do” a couple of times. And we were married without any celebration at all.

My family and my wife’s family even didn’t know that we had a boyfriend or a girlfriend, let lone about our marriage. We just don’t want them to worry about us, since we knew that they did not have enough money for the plane tickets to USA, nor did we have enough money.

We were officially married. We left the court. I told my wife that the judge last name Stone was great, which indicated our love and marriage would be as solid as a stone. It is very true. Now we love each other so dearly with two beautiful angels and a sweet home.

Back to the apartment, I called a couple of friends on the campus. I told them that we were married and the next day we were going to New York to look for jobs. We threw all stuffs including books away, but kept few clothes and the blankets since our poor Ford escort car was too small. The next day, we drove seven hours to New York. Once in New York, it took us more than half a day reading local newspapers and trying to find jobs. We felt that New York was not good for us because of our majors, my wife’s major is American Literature and mine is Political Science. In the same day, we drove another five hours to the city where we are living now. It was late in the evening. It was cold and raining. We didn’t want to bother our friends in the city because we knew that we may bother them again later on. We slept in our tiny two-door car while it was raining that night. Early morning the next day, we found a public restroom and put on waiter and waitress clothes. Luckily enough, both of us found a restaurant part-time job.

And our new life started and our new dream began,a beautiful, wonderful and sweet life and dream that we ever had.

今天是過年，
浮想連篇。
想起爹，
想起娘，
想起了從前。
漢英寫帖篇，
思緒萬千。
辭舊歲，
迎新年，
給你拜個年。

從故鄉到它鄉，
一年又一年。
變它鄉為故鄉，
青年變中年。
念故鄉建新鄉，
天天在過年。
故鄉它鄉新鄉，
永遠盼新年。

無憂代表黨中央， 總統府， 白宮以及世界海外華人協會向世界各地華人拜年。

願上帝和蒼天保佑世界各地華人.