朋友們， 不管你同意不同意無憂， 不管你有沒有無憂上大學的苦難經歷，不管你是爹還是媽， 不管你的孩子還在上幼兒院 還是已經上了博士後， 不管你是教育工作者， 還是其他的社會成員， 不管你英文好還是不好， 不管你有時間， 還是沒有時間， 下面這篇介紹哈夫大學生的文章，無憂請朋友們， 要看一看。 無憂在中國， 在美國都不是什麼名牌大學畢業， 也沒有干出什麼驚天動地的事業，但有一點無憂是明白的， 無憂的經歷告訴無憂， 同時願意分享與朋友們。無憂好多看法是對的， 是親生經歷的， 親身體會的，對很多人是有一定的間接意義的， 無憂的用意是好的。 無憂的孩子還小， 離上大學還有好久。但看到朋友們如此這般的名校名校， 無憂實在感到可笑， 也為朋友們， 尤其是朋友們的孩子們擔心， 如此這樣的名校名校， 上了名校又將是如何是可想而知了。 因為出生的貧苦， 無憂的大學是痛苦的， 不愉快的，雖然無憂很小就是很堅強的， 很上進的， 天不怕， 地不怕， 而且抱負之大， 大的有一天想當毛澤東。因為家裡貧窮， 無憂大學時， 不能和同學們同生活， 共話語， 與同學， 甚至與老師是那麼的隔隔不入， 有時甚至對同學們的友情好意都會誤認為是對自己的小看和貶低， 這深深的影響了無憂大學的正常生活以及發展。這樣的感覺， 你沒有無憂的經歷， 你是無法了解的， 體會的。 我們的孩子們上哈夫， 值得驕傲， 值得慶祝，但無憂上大學的經歷你可想過否， 下面文章里窮人家孩子們在哈夫的生活感受你可知道否。 如果我們的孩子考慮的不是那麼成熟全面， 你這個作爹媽的， 是否可以提醒一下孩子們， 到底要去那所大學？ 哈夫不給獎學金， 或是給一點獎學金，而州立大學給全獎學金。 一個能夠給你全獎學金州立大學難道真的就比哈夫差的那遠嗎？ 你在申請哈夫， 州立大學的時候， 你不是也覺得這個州立大學也是可以的嗎？為什麼那麼的死心眼呢？ 無憂實話告訴你吧， 爹媽經濟不充足， 這四年哈夫是痛苦艱難的， 不管你沒有獎學金， 你要個思想準備， 下面這篇介紹哈夫大學生的文章， 就告訴你這個道理。 其實大學也就大學， 不是一切， 是人生的一小步，來日方長， 父母朋友們， 還有我們的孩子們， 看開點兒。有能力，有出息，有骨氣， 你這個不是北大， 不是哈夫畢業的野雞大學畢業的，將來如有閒心， 有時間， 有業績也給北大， 哈夫的驕子們上那麼兩堂免費的課， 也就是無憂在中國大學時的所謂的學術報告和經驗介紹。 無憂也奉勸朋友們以後要拿出一定的時間和精力看看美國人寫的，英文版的， 原汁原漿的介紹美國教育的文章， 從而開闊我們的眼界， 解放我們的思想，美好我們的生活，更好培養我們的孩子， 同時也提高一下我們的英文， 更加大美帝國化。 謝謝朋友們， 還有我們的孩子們。 The Harvard disadvantage Despite outreach, the needy face socioeconomic gulf CAMBRIDGE - He was valedictorian of his senior class, and had been accepted at all 13 colleges to which he applied. But when Miguel Garcia entered Harvard University last fall, he felt he didn't belong. As classmates moved into Harvard Yard that first day with parents - and in some cases, chauffeurs - driving fancy vehicles packed with boxes, Garcia arrived alone. His belongings fit into two suitcases and a backpack. His mother, a worker at an industrial laundry, and father, a janitor at a Detroit casino, could not afford the trip. "Everyone else seemed so polished and entitled and seamlessly adapting," Garcia recalled. "It just felt like they'd been here their whole lives. I was really intimidated. I didn't feel like I had anything in common." Students of modest means have attended Harvard on scholarship for decades. But with the school making an unprecedented push to recruit more of them by offering virtually free rides, the number of students from families making less than $60,000 a year has surged 30 percent over the last five years - to about one-fifth of all Harvard students. As it increases its outreach to such students, Harvard is doing more to help them adjust to campus life and address the disconnect that many experience on arrival, said William Fitzsimmons, dean of admissions and financial aid, who himself was a scholarship student at Harvard. To make the transition easier, Harvard has quietly expanded a fund that students can tap to pay for such things as admission to dorm dances, tutoring, winter coats, even plane tickets home. Financially, at least, their four years at Harvard would appear to be worry-free, as the school covers tuition, room, and board - close to $50,000 a year. The university has nearly doubled its investment in financial aid since 2004. Socially, though, less-fortunate students must gingerly navigate a minefield of class chasms on a campus still brimming with legacies and wealth. Jim Crossen, a Harvard senior from Davenport, Iowa, recalls that he balked during freshman year when his choir required students to don tuxedos for concerts. "No one ever told me I was poor until I got to Harvard," Crossen said. "It was that culture of saying, 'Just wear your tux.' I don't even own a suit - still." Even when he discovered that the choir has money to help members in a pinch, Crossen was too embarrassed to ask. He bought a tuxedo for $80 at a bargain basement - it smelled like a basement, too - spending wages from his part-time job at the law school library. And while many of his classmates went hiking on Harvard-organized trips just before the start of freshman year, Crossen chose to spend the week earning $11 an hour scrubbing toilets in Harvard dorms. He later stopped buying textbooks, using the library instead to save $400 a semester. It can be difficult to discern the neediest students. There's no support group or club for them - many students prefer not to reveal their socioeconomic standing. The university keeps a list of them, available only to Harvard financial aid officials, to try to meet their needs throughout their undergraduate years, be it emergency money for a root canal or a loan for test-prep courses, an interview suit, or travel while studying abroad. The college discreetly notifies needy students of the financial safety net early on and checks in monthly through an e-mailed newsletter that reminds them of the benefits for which they are eligible. The system is private and dignified. The attempts at socioeconomic immersion begin even before students arrive on campus. Harvard hires about 10 scholarship students each year to reach out to talented middle- and high- school students from similar backgrounds, get them to apply, and ultimately, to enroll. They are a diverse group of recruiters - some first-generation college students and the children of alumni whose financial fortunes plummeted due to layoffs or a parent's death; one is the son of an Ethiopian diplomat. On a recent Saturday, five of the recruiters crammed into an overheated office on campus to call more than 250 low- and moderate-income students who have just been accepted for admission. They congratulated the high school seniors and invited each one to visit Cambridge on a Harvard-funded trip. "The stakes are high here," Fitzsimmons said in an interview. "If we aren't educating the full range of the population, we won't be educating effective future leaders of the country." Fitzsimmons, a 1967 Harvard graduate, experienced the initial alienation that some disadvantaged students feel. His parents, who never attended college, ran a convenience store and gas station in Weymouth. Two of his teachers refused to write him a recommendation, telling him, "Harvard is for a bunch of rich snobs. If you go there, you won't fit in." "The place overwhelmed me with its affluence," Fitzsimmons said. "I certainly felt like I was a kind of a stranger, visiting, for quite some time. This is a much more hospitable place than when I first arrived." Much of Harvard has changed. Even its exclusive final clubs - once a bastion of privilege - have opened up to students from modest backgrounds. While membership costs thousands of dollars a year, many now let sought-after recruits know that financial aid is available. Still, a sense of isolation strikes some undergraduates in the most mundane moments. While wealthy housemates bemoan the walk to drop off their dirty clothes at a laundry service, students like Garcia wait hours for the washer and dryer in the dorm basement. Everyone, it seems, has traveled to Paris and summered on the Vineyard. For Garcia, summer isn't a verb; growing up, it was a time for menial work. Garcia, the first boy in his family to graduate from high school, is grateful to have made it to the Ivy League. Intellectually, the 19-year-old history and literature major feels at home. But the pressure to fit in got to him soon after moving into the suite he shared with three other freshmen. As rich housemates talked of jetting to Las Vegas for the weekend, he privately worried about helping his parents cover their car loan, utilities, and other expenses. Many days, he just wanted to be alone. He requested a new living arrangement, and weeks after arriving on campus, he moved into a single. It's where he meditates and writes in a journal to sort out his feelings. "You can't take a kid who's lived in the ghetto for 18 years and just make them feel OK now," Garcia said. "But other people say, 'Why are you complaining? You're at Harvard. You have a full ride. And when you graduate, you'll be just like us.' " Instead of pretending everyone is equal, he said, the university should encourage more candid conversations about the sensitive topic of wealth and poverty. Garcia would like to see Harvard form a support network for students like himself who want the camaraderie, and establish an office to help them adjust. Harvard officials acknowledge there is more to be done. During orientation next fall, new students will be asked to discuss readings about class differences and privilege, said Thomas Dingman, dean of freshmen. "The makeup of Harvard has changed a lot, and this is something we can do to address some of the issues of socioeconomic diversity," Dingman said. Two weekends ago, recently admitted low- and moderate-income students gathered at the campus pub for a special reception. They drank Shirley Temples, picked up free pocket guides on how to survive Harvard on a shoestring budget, and grilled current scholarship students about their experiences. Rosario Santillana, a Los Angeles student, said she would not have visited Harvard if the university had not paid for her flight. "As far as money goes, Harvard spoils you," Santillana concluded. Bradley Craig, a Dallas student whom Garcia hosted that weekend, still had reservations. Garcia spoke to him frankly about his experiences this year but next year looks forward to living with at least one roommate - now that "I'm comfortable with myself being here." Days later, Craig enrolled, because the fact that Garcia is "still here and wants to stay here says a lot."