文章来源: 遇到这样 于 2003-7-15 20:55:04:

我和老公是大学同学， 感情一直都很好， 老公属于那种特老实，脑子特死特倔的人。 因为一直在学校里呆， 人比较简单，也老认为别人都和他一样。

结婚前我就知道他的家庭不是很好， 但那时总是天真的以为只要我们俩好， 和得来就行了。现在才知道，婚姻是一个太复杂的东西， 爱情一旦和婚姻联起来， 就远不是那么简单， 自己原本以为纯洁的，伟大的爱情， 其实是经不起婆家人的折腾的。

在国内时， 只和他家里人见过一面， 是结婚的时候。到美国来之后， 我打工，老公读书， 总算是毕业找了分不错的工作。我也可以上学了。 我是文科出身，只好改专业，学费由老公出。他家里的人， 尤其是他妈，把我恨的不行。

99年老公毕业， 找着工作，我们一起回去了一趟，他父母非嚷着要来， 我们回来后， 先让他们办护照，等这的经济情况好了，就让他们去签证。回来前，他妈非要说办护照没钱，我们留下几百块钱给他们办护照。我们回来后，帐上只剩下150 刀。

老公工作没几个月， 我就考过了托，加上我们刚买了新车，经济很紧张， 我们就希望他们能等我毕业了再来，也就晚一年半。这样的话，他们玩儿得也会好一点， 因为我们经济上比较宽松。

就因为我上学花了钱，耽误了他们来，老公德父母，尤其是他妈，开始变着法的问我们要钱。一会是要买营养品， 一会是要出去旅游，一会是要顾保姆， 总之，是要我们不停的寄钱回去

????口头阐是---100美元对你们是小指头一根。其实，在这里工资听这停高的， 但除下税，房租，保险，。。。没个月其实不怎么剩钱的， 别说$100， 我们一般花$50都要考虑一下的。

2000年我意外的怀孕， 预产期是01年的6月，也是我毕业的时候，更是许诺的让他父母过来的时候。老公怕他父母那时来玩不好，我们就决定让他们提前来。他父母01年12月来了。

一来就无数要求，比如，出去玩不能主一个房间， 必需一人一个，等等。家里的活一点不帮着干， 我那时，要full time 上课， 加上half intern 和half time on campus job (这个工作是他们来后才找的， 因为老公的工资实在是不能cover所有的费用)， 累的要死， 回家还得作4个人的饭。 他爸是这辈子没作过饭， 他妈是到美国后， 不知道该怎么作饭。我挺这个日渐突起的肚子作饭， 他妈又说不好吃。他爸则是每天上网， 看DVD,把电视的声音开很大很大， 楼下邻居几次complain us.

我一月份作ultra sound, it was a girl，他妈竟当我面说，她很失望。

我和老工的关系， 那时也到冰点， 我要不是怀孕， 都想离婚了。

因为心情不好， 累，我的体重开始明显下降，最后二月份的时候， 没理由的流产了。小孩子都已经成型了。我痛苦的要死。。。

他父母终于走了， 临走还把给我们从中国带的东西算成钱带走。并要求以后每个月要寄钱， 且支票要写他父母两个人的名字， 否则，被写名字的一方会不给另一个人钱。

我和老工的关系也渐渐好了。我也找着工作了。去年我们夏天买了房子。

我今年2月换工作， H1 transfer 出了点问题， 只好转成H4，我们还准备趁现在不好找工作， 先生个孩子， 因为我也30 多了。但我们的经济状况一下子又不好起来。

我们虽然买了大房子， 但一样家具都没买， 几个房间都是空的。LG的公司也裁了3轮了， 我们每天都小心翼翼， 不乱花1分钱。

上个月开始， LG妈要我们借钱给她的一个侄子

Sorry, can't type Chinese anymore...

Last month, his mother wanted us lend $4000-5000 to her nephew, whom we never met him and his mother only met him about 10 years ago (his mother left her hometown after marriage). We all don't know this guy very well. The reason that he wants to borrow money from us is that he wants to be married and buy a big house. My husband called him and told him that we don't have savings right now, we may be able to lend him around $2000 at the end of the year if his company can give him some bonus. Since then, he called us again and again, ask when we can wire transfer this $2000 to his account in Bank of China. My husband then send him an email writen in Chinese and declare again that we don't have money now, we can only lend him till the end of the year depending on our financial situation here.

When my husband called his home yesterday, his mother asked him when we can lend money to her nephew and we must lend some to him. She didn't believe we only have $2000 in our account now, even after she visited here, after my husband told her how much his net income each month and what we need to pay each month! She just say "it is not big deal for your to get $4000...!"

Plus, they don't want to cook any more, and want to hire a full time housekeeper, and we need to pay this for them.

My husband has 2 sisters and one brother, he is the youngest one. They all has good job in China. His father has retired but still get over 1000 Ren Min Bi each month. We send them $100 each month, it should be enough for their livings in a small town.

What I can't understand is my parents are always afraid of our life is not good here, they don't deposit the check I send them each time. But his parents are opposite. They want everything from us.

What should I do? My husband is a good man, but I can't stand his family. I don't want to divoce with him just because of this, but sometimes I really feel frastrated about his family and don't what should I do.

We have our life, why his parents just want to ruin this?