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bbw：問題請教：牧師可不可以再婚？case：牧師喪偶，再婚的對象是一姐妹，信主前離過婚，原因是對方的婚外情。
另外請教怎麼理解這句經文？“作監督的，必須無可指責，只作一個婦人的丈夫，。。。”（提前3:2)
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lookupon：關於你說的那節經文
我聽到的解釋是，在一個時間段只做一個婦人丈夫，就是不要多妻。妻子死了，這個婚姻關係就結束了，應當是可以再婚的，並沒有違背提前3:2的原則。
從那個姐妹的case來看，離婚是不好的，可是若是信主前離的，我在想，耶穌為我們的罪死了，難道不是也是為這個罪死了嗎？難道說離婚的罪大到連主的寶血也不能洗淨嗎？同時，離婚的原因是對方的婚外情，按照太19：9-10，這樣的離婚，是主允許的，也不算犯罪或者淫亂了。
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Yuehanmiao：我覺得，任何人不僅可以而且應該再婚
婚姻是神設立的一項社會制度，為了人的好處，讓一男一女二人成為一體，以夫妻這種新的人倫關係，一生一世生活在世界上，彼此享受神通過配偶賜給的那種甜蜜和幸福。
人不是生下來就自動明白這些道理的，但是，何時明白了，豐盛的祝福就開始了。
因此，任何人要有勇氣靠着神的恩典了斷過去，不受任何過去罪的捆綁，接受神在婚姻上的祝福！任何人不僅可以而且應該再婚！
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羅七：他似乎在問牧師的婚姻是否影響牧會的資格
Yuehanmiao：影響啊。但實際上要CASE BY CASE.
思齊：摩西都再婚了
candle：yes. I agree with Miao for this. Men would fall into temptation more easily. Also, men are not created to be alone. If men do not live in the design of God, that is not right. If men live in the design, why they are prevented from doing the jobs?
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ardmore：再結婚應該可以,再作牧師恐怕要考慮考慮。
Yuehanmiao：牧師是誰的牧師呢？
是一群基督徒的牧師。如果這個再婚的人如實地和這群基督徒講明真相（說人話，別高來高去），自己不僅明白聖潔的婚姻原則而且持守所信的，會眾接納他，他完全有資格牧養教會。只不過在考察他的時候，人們會有更多的疑問而已，他要做的是消除大家的疑問。
如果會眾認為他因此不夠資格，會眾當然有權柄。自己也要順服。
所以是兩個問題，他怎麼看自己和牧師職務，會眾怎麼看牧師職務和他。
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無為：這樣問應當好理解些：可否離婚？
candle：yes. that is a contract. if one side broke it, the other side is forced to be in the broken relatinship. It is two people involved relationship. If one is out, another one can not hold on to it anymore.
無為：神如果只是證人，那麼你這理解就是完全合理的了。
但是，作為信的人應當認為，這關係是神建立的，人不能拆散。拆散就是罪~~~ 同時，我們每天的罪太多了。
我記得 聖經上說過，復婚是神最憎惡的，就是和別人睡睡，又回來的那種。
但是，1，如果是出於愛心，處於愛人，愛神，不是情慾，這就是好的。2，自己內心並不小看這罪，求神寬恕，因為我們知罪悔改了，決不在行虛妄之事，內心真的有了真理的智慧，那麼這罪也就不能把咱們咋樣，我們就是憑着基督 得勝了的。
candle：Bible has the teaching very throughly.Don't just nibble some scrappy bits and miss the whole point.
無為：所以前幾天我說， 信徒不要在地上尋找公正，同樣也不要被地上 標準捆綁，被律法捆綁，那都是讓我們知罪，讓我們有一顆痛悔的心，這就是神所不輕看的了。
如是自欺欺人，那就是絆倒人，也是害自己了。內心的悔改，必然導致行為的改變，這就是以神的話為頭，順從他的心意。
我求神：把我的罪時常擺在我的眼前，讓我憂傷痛悔，警醒自己好讓我們在永生的信心上永遠不致失望。
candle：this is a right attitude
無為：我們日常生活中的許多罪，都是這樣產生的：
Micah
1 Woe to them that devise iniquity, and work evil upon their beds! when the morning is light, they practise it, because it is in the power of their hand.
這個時候，我們沒有仰望神的名。拿離婚再婚這件事來講，我們內心因為仇恨，互相攻擊，夫妻之間矛盾衝突，完全沒有把神放在內心適當的位置，於是離婚了。
但是，如果再婚是因為 自己的痛悔，就是再大的罪，豈能捆綁我們？ 我們最終可以擁有神的話，也就是他的智慧，生命，就是起死回生了~~~~ 但卻不是因為我們的能力，是因為神的慈悲， 因為他明確告訴我們，憂傷痛悔 他就赦免，並且有了一顆新的信心，新的生命，不斷在聖靈里成長。
candle：lot of divorce is because of adultery involvement.That, is tearing up the contract first. Divorve is only the facial and final result of the breaking up.
無為：你說的沒錯，但是從另一方面也說明，我們當今的人們都吃了很多分辨善惡的果子，都很堅定地尋求自己的公義，（也包括我自己）沒有足夠的愛心，把神的安排置之不顧，堅持真理，到最後失去了“愛心”， 也失去了真理。衝突多了，罪也就多了，世界也就更加混亂。
我一直認為，不在於人有多少配偶，而在於人的貪心，嫉妒。以往人的一夫多妻/一妻多夫 都不是問題的根源，分辨善惡的果子吃多了，自然就是衝突，就是自義。如果說基督是頭，我們這許多信徒，那還不嫉妒的打起來了？因為他不厚此薄彼，他的愛是公正的，協調的。
但是，每天在外邊胡來 絕對不是什麼好事，那是在他自己身上的傷口，最終他要為之付出代價。 如果他有智慧，最終會在痛苦當中回頭，否則就是徹底的失敗。
人經常說“塞翁失馬”，其實，不只是最後的結果，就是中間每個細節，也都是體現了神的美意，人不可測度啊~~~~ 呵呵
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bbw：謝謝大家的回覆，說起來稍微複雜一些，我們的牧師是再婚的，就象我在下面說的情況。現在有另一講員提出不能跟這樣的牧師同工，讓我們決定，如果我們留下那個牧師，他就不會再來我們這裡做工。因為我們的牧師還有另一家教會需要照顧，一個月只能來一次這裡講道，我們的講台大部分的時候要靠另一位講員以及他的同工們撐起。但是我們現在實在不好做出攆走牧師的決定，這是一副實在難擔的擔子，請問弟兄姐妹們有什麼建議？
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無為：確實很難啊~~~~ 你是怕那師母壞了事？ 呵呵
bbw：從感情上說我們不願意去論斷牧師，更不想擔那趕走牧師的惡名。
無為：我要是你們，1不顧面子，2隻看牧師講道的水平，3也是最主要的，只看神，不看人。
如果他每天的講道 確實超出了你們的規矩，讓你們的靈魂上大有長進，那你們就當包容他，愛他，體諒他的軟弱，就算那是軟弱的話。這樣，大家才可以沒有矛盾，共同提高。
joyking：那個講員如果真的是那麼想的,他一開始為什麼要和這位牧師同工?
bbw：牧師剛結婚
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一基督徒：把那另一個講員趕出去，神必親自為你們教會預備新講員。如果那個另一講員就因為那牧師再婚而胡鬧的話， 那下次對別的人因為其他原因在胡鬧一下。
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思齊：牧師喪偶再婚沒什麼可以指責的 那個講員提出不能跟這樣的牧師同工恐怕是另有隱情.你們覺得這個牧師在傳講神的道和牧養會眾上是否和符聖經,才是關鍵.
bbw：牧師在講道和個人見證上是絕對沒有問題的，要說有問題的話，就是這次的再婚，我也不知道問題出在哪裡了，所以才在下面請教大家。
無為：應當看到，每個人的光景都差不多，大家互相包容不是的地方，只要能夠為了靈魂建造有用。
思齊：如果是這樣,那個講員是不是想做縮減費用或者由他自己當牧師?
bbw：這個不好論斷他，他在別處的事工也很多希望大家從聖經出發幫助解惑。
思齊：只能說他的做法和想法不合聖經牧師喪偶再婚是無可指責的,只做一個婦人的丈夫.
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joyking：你們師母好不好麼? 我估計是另有原因,那個講員在借題發揮.在摩西時代這樣的人是要被打PP的.
bbw：牧師剛結婚，我們對師母還不了解。
雅億：這點就是問題呀，他結婚的對象，他難道沒有和會眾一起禱告過麼？結婚的過程如果會中沒有問題，那現在的問題從何而來？如果那時候有問題，牧師依然故我，那麼其他同工的感受受到了傷害，選擇別人當牧師無可非議。好的牧師不見得合適好的羊群，要對上眼，如同兩好人不見得能成一家一個意思。
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xinmin：Make simple matter simple, not complex.
Can a pastor remarry? Yes, if his wife has died.
Can a sister remarry? Yes, if her husband commits adultery.
Can a pastor whose wife has died get remarried with a sister who is already divorced with an adulterous husband? Yes!
The matter is simple. The other preaching coworker makes it complex.
He may be thinking about 1Timothy 3:2 (Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach ...). But he may have exegeted the requirement of "but one wife" wrong.
It actually means one wife as long as his wife is neither dead, nor adulterous, and remains legal married to him.
Do not put on unwarranted burden to people's shoulders.
bbw：謝謝新牧，你回答得很清楚：）
xinmin：So ask him why he opposes the remarried pastor.
You will know at least how good his exegesis is.
There is another issue of grace. Is God's grace sufficient? Some people have little faith on the sufficiency of grace. They question if God will use an incomplete person to be his shepherd. They are of little faith and know little about grace.
Legalism is an enemy of grace. Grace not only forgives, but empowers people to live a life befitting grace of God.
bbw：我們會問他具體的依據是什麼？事情來得太突然，把我們搞懵了還沒完全反應過來，但是以前他確實特別強調了提前3:2,認為做監督和做執事的必須是沒有再婚的。一旦，從他那裡得到什麼新依據，我會再來這裡向大家請教，謝謝！
xinmin：The issue is not remarriage, it is fidelity.People are good at collecting sesame but forgoing watermelon. You also have to gently prod him to exegete correctly 1Timothy3:2. A bad exegesis is as good as a heresy.
xinmin：To be sharp minded, you may ask these:
(1) Can a sister who is divorced from an adulterous husband remarry a brother in the Lord?
I bet he will say yes.
(2) Can that brother ever become a pastor?
I bet he will tentatively agree.
(3) Can that brother be already a pastor whose wife is dead?
I bet he will grimace before disapproval.
(4) Does marrying a divorced sister make a pastor less holy than a lay Christian couple?
I bet he will equivocate.
思齊：要他再念一遍出12章
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joyking：強解聖經的話,還可以得出另一個結論,保羅都沒戲了，以下摘自靈修版聖經:
你不覺得保羅所說的有點奇怪嗎？難道定要有妻子的才可以當監督？提前3:2 保羅提到監督只可以有一位妻子，他是要禁止多妻或婚外情，而不是說獨身男人不可以擔任長老，也不是說鰥夫不能再婚。
xinmin：Good point. May I also add this.
If a young or middle-aged pastor's wife dies, can he remain a pastor above reproach without getting remarried?
Hardly! Why?
People will have a harder time to accept a single pastor who visits families. They will like to have a married pastor/wife team to do caring and visitation.
So for all practical purpose, a pastor is better married or remarried than single.
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誠之：請查這個資料別忘了查經文。
http://209.85.30.235/articleReader.php?idx=155075
<<聖經>>的婚姻﹐離婚﹐與再婚觀
林慈信
I. MARRIAGE, DIVORCE AND RE-MARRIAGE IN THE BIBLE
經文﹕
創Genesis 2: 24 申Deuteronomy 24:1-4 箴Proverbs 2:17
瑪Malachi 2:13-16 太Matthew 5:31, 32 (esp. 32) 太Matthew 18:15-18
太Matthew 19:3-9 (esp. 9) 林前I Corinthians 7:10-16
引言﹕為什麼需要討論這題目﹖
Introduction. Why Discuss the Topic?
2. 在基督徒中間﹐包括華人福音派教會的信徒﹐離婚越來越普遍。
Divorce is increasingly common among Christians. No longer a taboo word.
3. 當基督徒離婚時﹐影響到很多人。小孩親戚﹐全教會等。
Many are affected, and suffer the consequences, when divorce happens.
4. 神在<<聖經>>中對於婚姻﹐離婚與再婚有清楚的教導。我們不需﹐也不應該只靠我們自己的想法(常識) 來正視這些問題。
God has spoken on marriage, divorce, and re-marriage. Don’t go by our own
ideas.
5. 神為離婚中的受害者提供幫助﹐支持與安慰。林前10﹕13
God offers help, support and comfort for those who suffer the consequences of divorce. I Cor. 10:13
6. 基督徒常常對於愛的真義﹐婚姻﹐離婚﹐性﹐罪與再婚有不合乎<<聖經>>的觀念。羅馬書12﹕2
Christians often have un-biblical ideas about love, marriage, divorce, sex, sin and re-marriage. Romans 12:2
7. 我們應該彼此擔當重擔(加6﹕2) 。因此﹐我們需要神的教導。
We are to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2). So God’s instructions are necessary.
8. 對離婚有正確的認識﹐可以幫助單身的青年基督徒好好的準備結婚。
Understanding this helps single people prepare properly, biblically for marriage.
I. 婚姻 Marriage
1. 神設立婚姻﹐為了給人同伴(創2﹕18)。神也吩咐人類要生養眾多﹐遍滿全地(創1﹕26-28) 。婚姻不是人想出來的﹐是神所設立的。
(神當然知道人類會否人口爆炸﹐小孩的大學教育太貴等問題﹗神仍然坐在寶座上﹗)
God instituted marriage for companionship (Genesis 2:18). God also wanted man and woman to multiply and fill the earth (Genesis 1:26-28). Marriage is not our idea; it’s God’s idea. (Now God of course knows about the population explosion problem, and the expenses of a child’s education, etc.! God is sovereign!)
2. 婚姻不是聖禮(我們不同意天主教的教導) 。結婚並不讓我們得到更多的救恩。單身也並不等於更加屬靈。婚姻是一個盟約。是在神面前﹐證人面前立志﹐立約﹐終生愛對方。
(無論在教會行禮﹐或在政府面前﹐交換了誓約﹐就是結了婚了﹗)
Marriage is not a sacrament (as the Catholic church teaches). By getting married, you do not gain more grace/salvation. Nor is singleness more holy/spiritual. Marriage is a covenant. It is a commitment, a vow before God, to love until death. (Whether done in a church or in front of a government official, once vows are exchanged, two persons are married!)
箴2﹕17
Proverbs 2:17: “that leaves the companion of her youth and forgets the covenant of her God.”
瑪拉基書2﹕14
Malachi 2:14: “the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.”
3. 愛的真義是什麼﹖(林前13章)
愛就是﹕決志為對方的最高好處而活。愛不是一個感覺。愛里有感覺﹐愛也透過感覺來表達。這個功課﹐神要我們用一輩子來學習。
What is love? (I Corinthians 13) It is a decision to live and act for the other’s highest good. It is not a feeling, though love is expressed with feelings. This, of course, is a lesson which God wants us to take a whole lifetime to learn.
II. 離婚 Divorce
1. 神恨惡離婚。離婚從來就不是神的計劃。離婚是人類墮落的後果。
God hates divorce. Divorce is never God’s intention. Divorce is a consequence of the fall of mankind.
瑪拉基書2﹕16
Malachi 2:16: “‘For I hate divorce,’ says the Lord, the God of Israel.”
可是在人類中﹐離婚的確會發生。因此神雖然恨惡離婚﹐可是祂管制離婚。
(例如﹕申24章﹐太19章﹐林前7章等。)
But divorce happens. Though God hates divorce, He regulates it (e.g. Deut. 24, Mt. 19, I Cor. 7).
2. 雖然神管制離婚﹐可是神的旨意從來就是﹕一男﹐一女 = 一體。
Even though God regulates divorce, God’s will is – one man, one woman = one flesh.
太19﹕6
“What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
3. 耶穌教導祂的門徒(基督徒) ﹕不可離婚。離婚乃將婚約破除。
Jesus instructs his followers (Christians): do not divorce. Divorce breaks the marriage.
太5﹕ 31-32
“It was said, ‘Whoever sends his wife away, let him give her a certificate of divorce’: but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except of the reason of unchastity (fornication), makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:31-32)
4. 不合乎<<聖經>>的離婚之後﹐若再婚乃是姦淫﹐因為這個後來的婚姻損害了先頭的婚姻的聖潔。注﹕可能很多基督徒目前活在這種的婚姻當中﹔可是不要隨便再離婚﹔
悔改必蒙赦免﹗
After a divorce not warranted by the Bible, if either one enters into another marriage, the subsequent marriage is adulterous because it has violated the sanctity of the first marriage.
Note: Many Christians may be living in such “adulterous” 2nd marriages. However this does not mean that they should hastily go and get another divorce. When we repent of our sins, God promises forgiveness!
5. 耶穌提出一個例外情況﹕淫亂。
注﹕淫亂(fornication) = 所有與性有關的罪。
姦淫 (adultery) = 任何違背婚約﹐不忠的行為。
這兩個字在聖經里有特定的用法。
太5﹕32
太19﹕9
Jesus provides one exception: fornication.
Note: “Fornication” is any kind of sexual sin. “Adultery” is any unfaithfulness which violates the marriage vow, sexual or not.
“Except for the reason of unchastity (fornication)” (Matthew 5:32).
“And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9)
6. 耶穌在太19﹕9針對的﹐是猶太人太容易﹐太輕率地離婚。神雖然管制離婚﹐要求人離婚時必需給對方休書﹐可是神從來不鼓勵人離婚。神從來沒有在任何情況里要求人必須離婚﹗
In Matthew 19:9, Jesus is rebuking the Jews for easy divorces. Though God regulated through certificates of divorce, he did not encourage divorce. God never requires/encourages divorce!
7. 申命記24﹕1-4 描述一個情況﹕男人休了妻子﹐因為她不悅目。她再婚﹐第二個丈夫也因為不悅目她而休了她。兩次的離婚﹐都是不合乎神的心意的。可是﹐離婚在神的眼中是那麼的嚴重﹕當第二個丈夫死後﹐第一個丈夫不可再娶這女人為妻。人再婚後﹐與前配偶和好再嫁/娶就不可能了。(注﹕不悅目--原文的意思不容易確定。)
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 describes a situation: a woman is divorced twice for “unpleasantness”– God does not approve of either divorce. But divorce is so serious in God’s eyes, that it cannot be remedied through reconciliation, once re-marriage has happened.
“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency (unpleasantness) in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house, and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man’s wife,
and if the latter husband turns against her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her to be his wife, then her former husband who sent her away is not allowed to take her again to be his wife, since she has been defiled; for that is an
abomination before the Lord, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the Lord your God gives you as an inheritance.” (Deuteronomy 24:1-4)
8. 我們必須從馬太18﹕15-18的角度來看馬太19﹕。兩處經文都是耶穌的教導
﹗若有基督徒犯了淫亂的罪﹐教會應該跟着馬太18﹕15-18的四步驟﹕
(一) 私下面責﹔(二) 帶一﹐兩個證人面責﹔(三) 告訴教會﹔(四) 開除會籍﹐把他當作外人﹐非信徒對待。若在第1﹐2﹐3步中﹐他悔改了﹐那麼他應與神﹐與配偶和好。
太18﹕15-18
Understand Matthew 19:9 in light of Matthew 18:15-18. Jesus is speaking in both places. When a Christian commits fornication, the church must follow 4 steps: (1) speak privately to him, (2) bring witnesses, (3) tell it to the church, (4) if he does not repent, expel him, regard him as a non-believer. If the Christian repents (in steps 1-3), restore him, reconcile him to his spouse.
“If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuse to listen to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and tax collector. Truly I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall have been bound in heaven; and whatever you loose on earth shall have been loosed in heaven.” (Matthew 18:15-18)
9. 紀律(管教) 是耶穌基督對全教會清楚的吩咐(就像洗禮與聖餐是耶穌清楚吩咐的一樣) 。紀律的目標﹐一定是恢復犯罪者與神的關係﹐和與人(家庭) 和好。若好好執行紀律的話﹐教會必定更健康。這需要勤勞的事奉﹐是不容易的﹗很多教會在這方面虧欠/懶惰。
Discipline is explicitly commanded by Jesus, like baptism and the Lord’s Supper are. The goal of discipline (Matthew 18) is always to reconcile people to God and others. Discipline contributes to the spiritual health of the church. It is hard work! (Churches are grossly negligent here.)
10. 馬太福音18﹐19章要一起來讀。(一) 基督徒不可(主動) 離婚。(二) 基督徒若犯淫亂﹐教會應該跟馬太福音18章的程序處理。(三) 犯罪者若不悔改﹐那麼另一方可以離婚。神從來沒有吩咐基督徒離婚﹐神從來沒有鼓勵基督徒離婚﹔在這個情況﹐神容許基督徒離婚。(注﹕對方已經不是基督徒了。)
Put Matthew 18 and 19 together: (a) Christians must not divorce. (b) If a Christian commits fornication, follow the 4 steps in Matthew 18. (c) If the sinner does not repent, the Christian has the option to divorce. Divorce is never commanded/encouraged by God; it is allowed here.
11. 保羅在林前7﹕10-11所教導的﹐與耶穌的教導完全符合。基督徒不可彼此離婚。
I Corinthians 7:10-11 Paul teaches the same thing as Jesus. Christians cannot divorce each other.
12. 可是在林前7﹕12-16﹐ 保羅處理了另外一種情況﹐是耶穌在福音書裡沒有處理的。(因此保羅說﹐“不是主說﹐是我說。”)
(一) 基督徒弟配偶若不是基督徒﹐那麼基督徒不可提出離婚﹐要與非信徒同住。(二) 若非信徒要離開﹐那麼基督徒必須讓他離開(離婚) 。神吩咐基督徒要容許非信徒離婚(若後者要這樣作的話) 。
林前7﹕10-15
In verses 12-16, Paul deals with a second scenario which Jesus did not deal with: (a) If a Christian has a non-Christian spouse, the Christian must live with him/her. (b)If the non-Christian leaves (i.e., divorces the Christian), the Christian is commanded to allow for the divorce, for peace’s sake.
“But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife. But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband I sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.” (I Corinthians 7:10-15)
13. 在林前7﹕12-15﹐保羅說﹐因為有基督徒在一個家庭里﹐那些非信徒都成為
“聖潔” 了﹗
In I Cor. 7:12-15, non-Christians are “holy” because a Christian is in the home!
14. 結論﹕ (一) 馬太福音18﹐19章教導我們﹐基督徒弟基督徒配偶﹐若犯淫亂
﹐而不悔改也不聽教會的紀律/管教的話﹐基督徒可以離婚 (到那個地步﹐對
方已經不是基督徒了) 。(二) 林前7﹕12-15教導我們﹐當一個非基督徒向一
個基督徒提出離婚時﹐基督徒必須容許離婚。在這兩個例外情況下﹐神容許基督徒離婚。
Conclusion: (a) Matthew 18 and 19 teaches that, if a Christian’s Christian spouse commits fornication, does not repent and does not heed discipline, the Christian can divorce his/her spouse (who by now is regarded as a non-believer). (b) I Corinthians 7:12-15 teaches that when a non-Christian divorces a Christian, the Christian must allow for this divorce and go through with it. These are the two situations where God allows the Christian to participate in a divorce.
15. 請注意﹕所謂心靈的創傷﹐從來就不是聖經提供的離婚理由。可是﹐教會必須根據馬太福音18執行處理犯罪事件﹐這包括一個配偶不遵行婚約的義務﹐
如離棄家庭﹐或虐待等。有身體/生命危險時﹐教會應立刻採取行動保護受害者。
Note that “mental pain” is never given as a reason for Christians to divorce. The church, however, must follow Matthew 18 and exercise discipline when a spouse neglects or violates his/her marriage obligations (e.g. by desertion or physical abuse). If there is physical danger, the church should act immediately to protect the injured/potential victims.
III. 再婚 Re-marriage
1. 在林前7﹕15﹐當基督徒讓非基督徒離婚之後﹐可以再婚。這是最自然解釋14﹐15節的方法。英文﹕在這些事上﹐我們不被捆綁。
In I Corinthians 7:15, a Christian who participates in a divorce initiated by his/her non-Christian spouse, is allowed to re-marry.
“ Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.” (I Cor. 7:10-15)
2. 我們的結論是﹐在馬太福音福音19﹕9﹐耶穌讓基督徒離婚﹐當對方犯
淫亂﹐不肯悔改也不聽教會的管教時。基督徒若離婚﹐可以再婚。
We conclude that in Matthew 19:9, Jesus allows divorce to happen in the exceptional case of fornication (with the understanding that, reconciliation is not possible because the fornicator refuses to repent and refuses to heed discipline.)
The most natural interpretation is: he/she who divorces under these circumstances, can remarry.
Jay Adams, Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible (Zondervan 1980).
“Divorce and Remarriage,” PCA Digest: Position Papers 1973-1993 (info: www.pcanet.org; www.gcp.org). pp. 182-293.
Sling@chinahorizon.org http://samling.ccim.org
June 9, 2002
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