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bbw：问题请教：牧师可不可以再婚？case：牧师丧偶，再婚的对象是一姐妹，信主前离过婚，原因是对方的婚外情。
另外请教怎么理解这句经文？“作监督的，必须无可指责，只作一个妇人的丈夫，。。。”（提前3:2)
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lookupon：关于你说的那节经文
我听到的解释是，在一个时间段只做一个妇人丈夫，就是不要多妻。妻子死了，这个婚姻关系就结束了，应当是可以再婚的，并没有违背提前3:2的原则。
从那个姐妹的case来看，离婚是不好的，可是若是信主前离的，我在想，耶稣为我们的罪死了，难道不是也是为这个罪死了吗？难道说离婚的罪大到连主的宝血也不能洗净吗？同时，离婚的原因是对方的婚外情，按照太19：9-10，这样的离婚，是主允许的，也不算犯罪或者淫乱了。
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Yuehanmiao：我觉得，任何人不仅可以而且应该再婚
婚姻是神设立的一项社会制度，为了人的好处，让一男一女二人成为一体，以夫妻这种新的人伦关系，一生一世生活在世界上，彼此享受神通过配偶赐给的那种甜蜜和幸福。
人不是生下来就自动明白这些道理的，但是，何时明白了，丰盛的祝福就开始了。
因此，任何人要有勇气靠着神的恩典了断过去，不受任何过去罪的捆绑，接受神在婚姻上的祝福！任何人不仅可以而且应该再婚！
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罗七：他似乎在问牧师的婚姻是否影响牧会的资格
Yuehanmiao：影响啊。但实际上要CASE BY CASE.
思齐：摩西都再婚了
candle：yes. I agree with Miao for this. Men would fall into temptation more easily. Also, men are not created to be alone. If men do not live in the design of God, that is not right. If men live in the design, why they are prevented from doing the jobs?
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ardmore：再结婚应该可以,再作牧师恐怕要考虑考虑。
Yuehanmiao：牧师是谁的牧师呢？
是一群基督徒的牧师。如果这个再婚的人如实地和这群基督徒讲明真相（说人话，别高来高去），自己不仅明白圣洁的婚姻原则而且持守所信的，会众接纳他，他完全有资格牧养教会。只不过在考察他的时候，人们会有更多的疑问而已，他要做的是消除大家的疑问。
如果会众认为他因此不够资格，会众当然有权柄。自己也要顺服。
所以是两个问题，他怎么看自己和牧师职务，会众怎么看牧师职务和他。
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无为：这样问应当好理解些：可否离婚？
candle：yes. that is a contract. if one side broke it, the other side is forced to be in the broken relatinship. It is two people involved relationship. If one is out, another one can not hold on to it anymore.
无为：神如果只是证人，那么你这理解就是完全合理的了。
但是，作为信的人应当认为，这关系是神建立的，人不能拆散。拆散就是罪~~~ 同时，我们每天的罪太多了。
我记得 圣经上说过，复婚是神最憎恶的，就是和别人睡睡，又回来的那种。
但是，1，如果是出于爱心，处于爱人，爱神，不是情欲，这就是好的。2，自己内心并不小看这罪，求神宽恕，因为我们知罪悔改了，决不在行虚妄之事，内心真的有了真理的智慧，那么这罪也就不能把咱们咋样，我们就是凭着基督 得胜了的。
candle：Bible has the teaching very throughly.Don't just nibble some scrappy bits and miss the whole point.
无为：所以前几天我说， 信徒不要在地上寻找公正，同样也不要被地上 标准捆绑，被律法捆绑，那都是让我们知罪，让我们有一颗痛悔的心，这就是神所不轻看的了。
如是自欺欺人，那就是绊倒人，也是害自己了。内心的悔改，必然导致行为的改变，这就是以神的话为头，顺从他的心意。
我求神：把我的罪时常摆在我的眼前，让我忧伤痛悔，警醒自己好让我们在永生的信心上永远不致失望。
candle：this is a right attitude
无为：我们日常生活中的许多罪，都是这样产生的：
Micah
1 Woe to them that devise iniquity, and work evil upon their beds! when the morning is light, they practise it, because it is in the power of their hand.
这个时候，我们没有仰望神的名。拿离婚再婚这件事来讲，我们内心因为仇恨，互相攻击，夫妻之间矛盾冲突，完全没有把神放在内心适当的位置，于是离婚了。
但是，如果再婚是因为 自己的痛悔，就是再大的罪，岂能捆绑我们？ 我们最终可以拥有神的话，也就是他的智慧，生命，就是起死回生了~~~~ 但却不是因为我们的能力，是因为神的慈悲， 因为他明确告诉我们，忧伤痛悔 他就赦免，并且有了一颗新的信心，新的生命，不断在圣灵里成长。
candle：lot of divorce is because of adultery involvement.That, is tearing up the contract first. Divorve is only the facial and final result of the breaking up.
无为：你说的没错，但是从另一方面也说明，我们当今的人们都吃了很多分辨善恶的果子，都很坚定地寻求自己的公义，（也包括我自己）没有足够的爱心，把神的安排置之不顾，坚持真理，到最后失去了“爱心”， 也失去了真理。冲突多了，罪也就多了，世界也就更加混乱。
我一直认为，不在于人有多少配偶，而在于人的贪心，嫉妒。以往人的一夫多妻/一妻多夫 都不是问题的根源，分辨善恶的果子吃多了，自然就是冲突，就是自义。如果说基督是头，我们这许多信徒，那还不嫉妒的打起来了？因为他不厚此薄彼，他的爱是公正的，协调的。
但是，每天在外边胡来 绝对不是什么好事，那是在他自己身上的伤口，最终他要为之付出代价。 如果他有智慧，最终会在痛苦当中回头，否则就是彻底的失败。
人经常说“塞翁失马”，其实，不只是最后的结果，就是中间每个细节，也都是体现了神的美意，人不可测度啊~~~~ 呵呵
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bbw：谢谢大家的回复，说起来稍微复杂一些，我们的牧师是再婚的，就象我在下面说的情况。现在有另一讲员提出不能跟这样的牧师同工，让我们决定，如果我们留下那个牧师，他就不会再来我们这里做工。因为我们的牧师还有另一家教会需要照顾，一个月只能来一次这里讲道，我们的讲台大部分的时候要靠另一位讲员以及他的同工们撑起。但是我们现在实在不好做出撵走牧师的决定，这是一副实在难担的担子，请问弟兄姐妹们有什么建议？
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无为：确实很难啊~~~~ 你是怕那师母坏了事？ 呵呵
bbw：从感情上说我们不愿意去论断牧师，更不想担那赶走牧师的恶名。
无为：我要是你们，1不顾面子，2只看牧师讲道的水平，3也是最主要的，只看神，不看人。
如果他每天的讲道 确实超出了你们的规矩，让你们的灵魂上大有长进，那你们就当包容他，爱他，体谅他的软弱，就算那是软弱的话。这样，大家才可以没有矛盾，共同提高。
joyking：那个讲员如果真的是那么想的,他一开始为什么要和这位牧师同工?
bbw：牧师刚结婚
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一基督徒：把那另一个讲员赶出去，神必亲自为你们教会预备新讲员。如果那个另一讲员就因为那牧师再婚而胡闹的话， 那下次对别的人因为其他原因在胡闹一下。
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思齐：牧师丧偶再婚没什么可以指责的 那个讲员提出不能跟这样的牧师同工恐怕是另有隐情.你们觉得这个牧师在传讲神的道和牧养会众上是否和符圣经,才是关键.
bbw：牧师在讲道和个人见证上是绝对没有问题的，要说有问题的话，就是这次的再婚，我也不知道问题出在哪里了，所以才在下面请教大家。
无为：应当看到，每个人的光景都差不多，大家互相包容不是的地方，只要能够为了灵魂建造有用。
思齐：如果是这样,那个讲员是不是想做缩减费用或者由他自己当牧师?
bbw：这个不好论断他，他在别处的事工也很多希望大家从圣经出发帮助解惑。
思齐：只能说他的做法和想法不合圣经牧师丧偶再婚是无可指责的,只做一个妇人的丈夫.
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joyking：你们师母好不好么? 我估计是另有原因,那个讲员在借题发挥.在摩西时代这样的人是要被打PP的.
bbw：牧师刚结婚，我们对师母还不了解。
雅亿：这点就是问题呀，他结婚的对象，他难道没有和会众一起祷告过么？结婚的过程如果会中没有问题，那现在的问题从何而来？如果那时候有问题，牧师依然故我，那么其他同工的感受受到了伤害，选择别人当牧师无可非议。好的牧师不见得合适好的羊群，要对上眼，如同两好人不见得能成一家一个意思。
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xinmin：Make simple matter simple, not complex.
Can a pastor remarry? Yes, if his wife has died.
Can a sister remarry? Yes, if her husband commits adultery.
Can a pastor whose wife has died get remarried with a sister who is already divorced with an adulterous husband? Yes!
The matter is simple. The other preaching coworker makes it complex.
He may be thinking about 1Timothy 3:2 (Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach ...). But he may have exegeted the requirement of "but one wife" wrong.
It actually means one wife as long as his wife is neither dead, nor adulterous, and remains legal married to him.
Do not put on unwarranted burden to people's shoulders.
bbw：谢谢新牧，你回答得很清楚：）
xinmin：So ask him why he opposes the remarried pastor.
You will know at least how good his exegesis is.
There is another issue of grace. Is God's grace sufficient? Some people have little faith on the sufficiency of grace. They question if God will use an incomplete person to be his shepherd. They are of little faith and know little about grace.
Legalism is an enemy of grace. Grace not only forgives, but empowers people to live a life befitting grace of God.
bbw：我们会问他具体的依据是什么？事情来得太突然，把我们搞懵了还没完全反应过来，但是以前他确实特别强调了提前3:2,认为做监督和做执事的必须是没有再婚的。一旦，从他那里得到什么新依据，我会再来这里向大家请教，谢谢！
xinmin：The issue is not remarriage, it is fidelity.People are good at collecting sesame but forgoing watermelon. You also have to gently prod him to exegete correctly 1Timothy3:2. A bad exegesis is as good as a heresy.
xinmin：To be sharp minded, you may ask these:
(1) Can a sister who is divorced from an adulterous husband remarry a brother in the Lord?
I bet he will say yes.
(2) Can that brother ever become a pastor?
I bet he will tentatively agree.
(3) Can that brother be already a pastor whose wife is dead?
I bet he will grimace before disapproval.
(4) Does marrying a divorced sister make a pastor less holy than a lay Christian couple?
I bet he will equivocate.
思齐：要他再念一遍出12章
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joyking：强解圣经的话,还可以得出另一个结论,保罗都没戏了，以下摘自灵修版圣经:
你不觉得保罗所说的有点奇怪吗？难道定要有妻子的才可以当监督？提前3:2 保罗提到监督只可以有一位妻子，他是要禁止多妻或婚外情，而不是说独身男人不可以担任长老，也不是说鳏夫不能再婚。
xinmin：Good point. May I also add this.
If a young or middle-aged pastor's wife dies, can he remain a pastor above reproach without getting remarried?
Hardly! Why?
People will have a harder time to accept a single pastor who visits families. They will like to have a married pastor/wife team to do caring and visitation.
So for all practical purpose, a pastor is better married or remarried than single.
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诚之：请查这个资料别忘了查经文。
http://209.85.30.235/articleReader.php?idx=155075
<<圣经>>的婚姻﹐离婚﹐与再婚观
林慈信
I. MARRIAGE, DIVORCE AND RE-MARRIAGE IN THE BIBLE
经文﹕
创Genesis 2: 24 申Deuteronomy 24:1-4 箴Proverbs 2:17
玛Malachi 2:13-16 太Matthew 5:31, 32 (esp. 32) 太Matthew 18:15-18
太Matthew 19:3-9 (esp. 9) 林前I Corinthians 7:10-16
引言﹕为什么需要讨论这题目﹖
Introduction. Why Discuss the Topic?
2. 在基督徒中间﹐包括华人福音派教会的信徒﹐离婚越来越普遍。
Divorce is increasingly common among Christians. No longer a taboo word.
3. 当基督徒离婚时﹐影响到很多人。小孩亲戚﹐全教会等。
Many are affected, and suffer the consequences, when divorce happens.
4. 神在<<圣经>>中对于婚姻﹐离婚与再婚有清楚的教导。我们不需﹐也不应该只靠我们自己的想法(常识) 来正视这些问题。
God has spoken on marriage, divorce, and re-marriage. Don’t go by our own
ideas.
5. 神为离婚中的受害者提供帮助﹐支持与安慰。林前10﹕13
God offers help, support and comfort for those who suffer the consequences of divorce. I Cor. 10:13
6. 基督徒常常对于爱的真义﹐婚姻﹐离婚﹐性﹐罪与再婚有不合乎<<圣经>>的观念。罗马书12﹕2
Christians often have un-biblical ideas about love, marriage, divorce, sex, sin and re-marriage. Romans 12:2
7. 我们应该彼此担当重担(加6﹕2) 。因此﹐我们需要神的教导。
We are to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2). So God’s instructions are necessary.
8. 对离婚有正确的认识﹐可以帮助单身的青年基督徒好好的准备结婚。
Understanding this helps single people prepare properly, biblically for marriage.
I. 婚姻 Marriage
1. 神设立婚姻﹐为了给人同伴(创2﹕18)。神也吩咐人类要生养众多﹐遍满全地(创1﹕26-28) 。婚姻不是人想出来的﹐是神所设立的。
(神当然知道人类会否人口爆炸﹐小孩的大学教育太贵等问题﹗神仍然坐在宝座上﹗)
God instituted marriage for companionship (Genesis 2:18). God also wanted man and woman to multiply and fill the earth (Genesis 1:26-28). Marriage is not our idea; it’s God’s idea. (Now God of course knows about the population explosion problem, and the expenses of a child’s education, etc.! God is sovereign!)
2. 婚姻不是圣礼(我们不同意天主教的教导) 。结婚并不让我们得到更多的救恩。单身也并不等于更加属灵。婚姻是一个盟约。是在神面前﹐证人面前立志﹐立约﹐终生爱对方。
(无论在教会行礼﹐或在政府面前﹐交换了誓约﹐就是结了婚了﹗)
Marriage is not a sacrament (as the Catholic church teaches). By getting married, you do not gain more grace/salvation. Nor is singleness more holy/spiritual. Marriage is a covenant. It is a commitment, a vow before God, to love until death. (Whether done in a church or in front of a government official, once vows are exchanged, two persons are married!)
箴2﹕17
Proverbs 2:17: “that leaves the companion of her youth and forgets the covenant of her God.”
玛拉基书2﹕14
Malachi 2:14: “the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.”
3. 爱的真义是什么﹖(林前13章)
爱就是﹕决志为对方的最高好处而活。爱不是一个感觉。爱里有感觉﹐爱也透过感觉来表达。这个功课﹐神要我们用一辈子来学习。
What is love? (I Corinthians 13) It is a decision to live and act for the other’s highest good. It is not a feeling, though love is expressed with feelings. This, of course, is a lesson which God wants us to take a whole lifetime to learn.
II. 离婚 Divorce
1. 神恨恶离婚。离婚从来就不是神的计划。离婚是人类堕落的后果。
God hates divorce. Divorce is never God’s intention. Divorce is a consequence of the fall of mankind.
玛拉基书2﹕16
Malachi 2:16: “‘For I hate divorce,’ says the Lord, the God of Israel.”
可是在人类中﹐离婚的确会发生。因此神虽然恨恶离婚﹐可是祂管制离婚。
(例如﹕申24章﹐太19章﹐林前7章等。)
But divorce happens. Though God hates divorce, He regulates it (e.g. Deut. 24, Mt. 19, I Cor. 7).
2. 虽然神管制离婚﹐可是神的旨意从来就是﹕一男﹐一女 = 一体。
Even though God regulates divorce, God’s will is – one man, one woman = one flesh.
太19﹕6
“What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
3. 耶稣教导祂的门徒(基督徒) ﹕不可离婚。离婚乃将婚约破除。
Jesus instructs his followers (Christians): do not divorce. Divorce breaks the marriage.
太5﹕ 31-32
“It was said, ‘Whoever sends his wife away, let him give her a certificate of divorce’: but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except of the reason of unchastity (fornication), makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:31-32)
4. 不合乎<<圣经>>的离婚之后﹐若再婚乃是奸淫﹐因为这个后来的婚姻损害了先头的婚姻的圣洁。注﹕可能很多基督徒目前活在这种的婚姻当中﹔可是不要随便再离婚﹔
悔改必蒙赦免﹗
After a divorce not warranted by the Bible, if either one enters into another marriage, the subsequent marriage is adulterous because it has violated the sanctity of the first marriage.
Note: Many Christians may be living in such “adulterous” 2nd marriages. However this does not mean that they should hastily go and get another divorce. When we repent of our sins, God promises forgiveness!
5. 耶稣提出一个例外情况﹕淫乱。
注﹕淫乱(fornication) = 所有与性有关的罪。
奸淫 (adultery) = 任何违背婚约﹐不忠的行为。
这两个字在圣经里有特定的用法。
太5﹕32
太19﹕9
Jesus provides one exception: fornication.
Note: “Fornication” is any kind of sexual sin. “Adultery” is any unfaithfulness which violates the marriage vow, sexual or not.
“Except for the reason of unchastity (fornication)” (Matthew 5:32).
“And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9)
6. 耶稣在太19﹕9针对的﹐是犹太人太容易﹐太轻率地离婚。神虽然管制离婚﹐要求人离婚时必需给对方休书﹐可是神从来不鼓励人离婚。神从来没有在任何情况里要求人必须离婚﹗
In Matthew 19:9, Jesus is rebuking the Jews for easy divorces. Though God regulated through certificates of divorce, he did not encourage divorce. God never requires/encourages divorce!
7. 申命记24﹕1-4 描述一个情况﹕男人休了妻子﹐因为她不悦目。她再婚﹐第二个丈夫也因为不悦目她而休了她。两次的离婚﹐都是不合乎神的心意的。可是﹐离婚在神的眼中是那么的严重﹕当第二个丈夫死后﹐第一个丈夫不可再娶这女人为妻。人再婚后﹐与前配偶和好再嫁/娶就不可能了。(注﹕不悦目--原文的意思不容易确定。)
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 describes a situation: a woman is divorced twice for “unpleasantness”– God does not approve of either divorce. But divorce is so serious in God’s eyes, that it cannot be remedied through reconciliation, once re-marriage has happened.
“When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency (unpleasantness) in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house, and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man’s wife,
and if the latter husband turns against her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her to be his wife, then her former husband who sent her away is not allowed to take her again to be his wife, since she has been defiled; for that is an
abomination before the Lord, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the Lord your God gives you as an inheritance.” (Deuteronomy 24:1-4)
8. 我们必须从马太18﹕15-18的角度来看马太19﹕。两处经文都是耶稣的教导
﹗若有基督徒犯了淫乱的罪﹐教会应该跟着马太18﹕15-18的四步骤﹕
(一) 私下面责﹔(二) 带一﹐两个证人面责﹔(三) 告诉教会﹔(四) 开除会籍﹐把他当作外人﹐非信徒对待。若在第1﹐2﹐3步中﹐他悔改了﹐那么他应与神﹐与配偶和好。
太18﹕15-18
Understand Matthew 19:9 in light of Matthew 18:15-18. Jesus is speaking in both places. When a Christian commits fornication, the church must follow 4 steps: (1) speak privately to him, (2) bring witnesses, (3) tell it to the church, (4) if he does not repent, expel him, regard him as a non-believer. If the Christian repents (in steps 1-3), restore him, reconcile him to his spouse.
“If your brother sins, go and show him his fault in private; if he listens to you, you have won your brother. But if he does not listen to you, take one or two more with you, so that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuse to listen to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and tax collector. Truly I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall have been bound in heaven; and whatever you loose on earth shall have been loosed in heaven.” (Matthew 18:15-18)
9. 纪律(管教) 是耶稣基督对全教会清楚的吩咐(就像洗礼与圣餐是耶稣清楚吩咐的一样) 。纪律的目标﹐一定是恢复犯罪者与神的关系﹐和与人(家庭) 和好。若好好执行纪律的话﹐教会必定更健康。这需要勤劳的事奉﹐是不容易的﹗很多教会在这方面亏欠/懒惰。
Discipline is explicitly commanded by Jesus, like baptism and the Lord’s Supper are. The goal of discipline (Matthew 18) is always to reconcile people to God and others. Discipline contributes to the spiritual health of the church. It is hard work! (Churches are grossly negligent here.)
10. 马太福音18﹐19章要一起来读。(一) 基督徒不可(主动) 离婚。(二) 基督徒若犯淫乱﹐教会应该跟马太福音18章的程序处理。(三) 犯罪者若不悔改﹐那么另一方可以离婚。神从来没有吩咐基督徒离婚﹐神从来没有鼓励基督徒离婚﹔在这个情况﹐神容许基督徒离婚。(注﹕对方已经不是基督徒了。)
Put Matthew 18 and 19 together: (a) Christians must not divorce. (b) If a Christian commits fornication, follow the 4 steps in Matthew 18. (c) If the sinner does not repent, the Christian has the option to divorce. Divorce is never commanded/encouraged by God; it is allowed here.
11. 保罗在林前7﹕10-11所教导的﹐与耶稣的教导完全符合。基督徒不可彼此离婚。
I Corinthians 7:10-11 Paul teaches the same thing as Jesus. Christians cannot divorce each other.
12. 可是在林前7﹕12-16﹐ 保罗处理了另外一种情况﹐是耶稣在福音书里没有处理的。(因此保罗说﹐“不是主说﹐是我说。”)
(一) 基督徒弟配偶若不是基督徒﹐那么基督徒不可提出离婚﹐要与非信徒同住。(二) 若非信徒要离开﹐那么基督徒必须让他离开(离婚) 。神吩咐基督徒要容许非信徒离婚(若后者要这样作的话) 。
林前7﹕10-15
In verses 12-16, Paul deals with a second scenario which Jesus did not deal with: (a) If a Christian has a non-Christian spouse, the Christian must live with him/her. (b)If the non-Christian leaves (i.e., divorces the Christian), the Christian is commanded to allow for the divorce, for peace’s sake.
“But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife. But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband I sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.” (I Corinthians 7:10-15)
13. 在林前7﹕12-15﹐保罗说﹐因为有基督徒在一个家庭里﹐那些非信徒都成为
“圣洁” 了﹗
In I Cor. 7:12-15, non-Christians are “holy” because a Christian is in the home!
14. 结论﹕ (一) 马太福音18﹐19章教导我们﹐基督徒弟基督徒配偶﹐若犯淫乱
﹐而不悔改也不听教会的纪律/管教的话﹐基督徒可以离婚 (到那个地步﹐对
方已经不是基督徒了) 。(二) 林前7﹕12-15教导我们﹐当一个非基督徒向一
个基督徒提出离婚时﹐基督徒必须容许离婚。在这两个例外情况下﹐神容许基督徒离婚。
Conclusion: (a) Matthew 18 and 19 teaches that, if a Christian’s Christian spouse commits fornication, does not repent and does not heed discipline, the Christian can divorce his/her spouse (who by now is regarded as a non-believer). (b) I Corinthians 7:12-15 teaches that when a non-Christian divorces a Christian, the Christian must allow for this divorce and go through with it. These are the two situations where God allows the Christian to participate in a divorce.
15. 请注意﹕所谓心灵的创伤﹐从来就不是圣经提供的离婚理由。可是﹐教会必须根据马太福音18执行处理犯罪事件﹐这包括一个配偶不遵行婚约的义务﹐
如离弃家庭﹐或虐待等。有身体/生命危险时﹐教会应立刻采取行动保护受害者。
Note that “mental pain” is never given as a reason for Christians to divorce. The church, however, must follow Matthew 18 and exercise discipline when a spouse neglects or violates his/her marriage obligations (e.g. by desertion or physical abuse). If there is physical danger, the church should act immediately to protect the injured/potential victims.
III. 再婚 Re-marriage
1. 在林前7﹕15﹐当基督徒让非基督徒离婚之后﹐可以再婚。这是最自然解释14﹐15节的方法。英文﹕在这些事上﹐我们不被捆绑。
In I Corinthians 7:15, a Christian who participates in a divorce initiated by his/her non-Christian spouse, is allowed to re-marry.
“ Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.” (I Cor. 7:10-15)
2. 我们的结论是﹐在马太福音福音19﹕9﹐耶稣让基督徒离婚﹐当对方犯
淫乱﹐不肯悔改也不听教会的管教时。基督徒若离婚﹐可以再婚。
We conclude that in Matthew 19:9, Jesus allows divorce to happen in the exceptional case of fornication (with the understanding that, reconciliation is not possible because the fornicator refuses to repent and refuses to heed discipline.)
The most natural interpretation is: he/she who divorces under these circumstances, can remarry.
Jay Adams, Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible (Zondervan 1980).
“Divorce and Remarriage,” PCA Digest: Position Papers 1973-1993 (info: www.pcanet.org; www.gcp.org). pp. 182-293.
Sling@chinahorizon.org http://samling.ccim.org
June 9, 2002
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