我說,“我不否認自己也是一個有魅力的女人. … 如果魅力是一種罪, 那就讓我認罪, 但我不懺悔.”

這話讓很多人不爽: “你憑什麼覺得自己有魅力? 還不就因為有人來找你談性! 說你淺薄是輕的, 說你賤一點也不過分!”

這樣的反應完全可以理解, 如果我真的象這些人說的這麼想.

對這個談性的男人, 我的態度如下:

1. Did I feel offended? Yes, I did, to a certain extent. Consider that he didn't know me well, it is easier to forgive his boldness.

2. Do I think highly about that guy? No, I don't.

3. Do I consider that guy a fly?
Not necessary. But he definitely holds lower moral standard. He believes that it is fine to separate sex and love, and it is fine to cheat his wife. I think it is the issue of moral standard.

I believe that sex and love can't be separated. It is acceptable to leave your spouse when love is gone, but it is not acceptable to cheat before you leave.

Everybody has his own moral standard to judge other people and judge himself. The key thing is, you don't force other people to follow your moral standard and don't say crude words to people with different (or lower by your own judgement) moral standard.

In other words, as long as it is legal, I respect other people's choices, although I might not agree with them.

4. Did I get mad at him? No, I didn't.

5. Did I take it as a compliment? Neutral.

6. Why did you thank him then?
I thank him for being straightforward, not for his proposal.

那到底憑什麼我自信有魅力?

我說過, 自己從來不是萬人迷的大眾情人. 人堆中, 我絕不是搶眼的女人.

當我十八妙齡的時候, 我根本不認為自己有魅力, 雖然去舞會從不曾擔心做壁花.

然而隨着青春的日漸流逝, 我對自己魅力的信心指數卻日漸增長.

為什麼?

因為我曾不止一次地被人深愛過, 而且幸運地從未被人背叛過.

一個女人, 如果她從不曾被人深愛過, 她依然可以自信是個優秀的女人, 但她不會自信是個有魅力的女人.

魅力是對人的吸引力.

外表無疑是魅力的一部分, 但不是最可靠, 最持久的部分. 我對自己外表的吸引力自信心比較有限. 我不醜, 但不過中人之姿, 當然偶爾也有比較美麗的時刻.

我的魅力來自我的靈魂.愛過我的人無一例外深愛我的靈魂. 我的靈魂是不老的, 甚至是越來越年輕的. 所以我相信, 三十年後, 當我六十多歲的時候, 我還會是一個有魅力的女人.

另外，我文章里還說, "對女人而言, 直接談性的男人不是真正危險的男人." 這並不是說道德觀念低下的男人沒有問題, 女人可以放心接觸他們. 但是, 因為直接談性的男人把自己的意圖和道德觀念直接擺在你的面前. 只要他沒有暴力傾向, 女人很容易拒絕和迴避, 所以不會構成真正的危險. 相反, 談心的男人開始可能並沒有居心不良, 讓人覺得很安全, 他卻有可能讓女人在不知不覺中深陷, 終至不能自拔. 所以更要小心.