many oversea chinese attitude concerning
parents (and/or in-law) relationship,

these folks TREAT parents in chinese way (baby-sitting + house working)
when needed, after that critical period, they prefer to TREAT
parents in american way (no money or time involved).

Grounded-meat-and-vegetables-stuffed pie would be falling down from the
sky ? One can always be winning?

In practice, case by case, all depend on WISDOM one was offered by
Almighty God