on contrary
神预定 人完全自己负责, okay?
预定是指神永恒的旨意，是在时空之外, as 贾牧师 emphasized,
why you DARE to explain it 在时空之内??!! your problem is HERE!!!

'神不预定你生活的每个细节，不预定你找老婆，你自己负责' who TOLD you that?!
how could you know for sure??!! if 预定是指神永恒的旨意，是在时空之外,
as 贾牧师 emphasized. why you could not think about it from
other perspectives, such as, why I married this woman instead of
the other one? why I eat rice instead of bread? why it was YouDa instead of
BiDe? The core DOUBT for you and alike is why 神 预定 this and that,
nothing else, you try to know 神永恒的旨意 in EVERYTHING, which obviously
IMPOSSIBLE! Please never forget: 预定是指神永恒的旨意，是在时空之外,
as 贾牧师 emphasized!

In short: in my understanding,
everything happens because of 神的预定
nothing happened beyond 神的预定,

神的预定 includes but not limited to RESULTS, PROCESS, and everything.

For example, as Bible told us that our hairs are counted by GOD,
even one hair could not be possible to fall off without GOD's permission,
your question is how it is possible for a CREATOR to care about
brother Miao's hair, indeed I have the same wander,
the difference between us is that
I am satisfied with the answer of I-DON'T-KNOW
and
you prefer to conclude it as IMPOSSIBLE with your
naive and laughable reasons.

Anyway, thank you for the LINK, I will humbly learn from him.